As a mom, I feel like I often worry about the big things in my children’s lives. Are they happy enough? Are they eating enough? Are they sleeping enough? Is their development on track with other kids? I’m a little crazy, I know. I can’t help it. In a matter of 18 months two little people have taken my world and heart over completely, and I spend my days not only taking care of them, but worrying about them.
Since having a second baby, I’ve come to realize that some of the things that I thought were big deals are not really that important at all. I’ve learned that every child crawls and walks eventually; no matter how much you obsess over it with your first baby. I’ve learned that kids will stop eating when they’re full; and sometimes they just need a little less pressure. I’ve learned to loosen the reigns a little bit and let my son safely explore on his own. I’ve learned to embrace the mess, the dirty laundry, and the endless amounts of spit up I encounter each day.
The thing is, as a second time mom you kind of have no choice in letting go a bit. There are now two of them and one of you. My daughter has added a dimension to my life that I never imagined was there. She has made me a better person and a better mom. Especially in our crazy, mixed up world, as moms we need to take a step back once in a while to recognize those things and be thankful. I now make it a point to relax and enjoy the little things in life every day. Here are some of those things that make me happy.
- I love my son’s rosey cheeks and sleepy eyes when he wakes up from a nap; and how he melts into my arms when I pick him up.
- I love the way my daughter’s mouth opens with a huge smile every time I smile at her.
- I love the way my son has learned in just 5 months to gently kiss his sister and love her unconditionally. This love can only get stronger.
- I love the way my husband looks at my kids with as much love and pride as I do. We are truly the luckiest.
- I love little toddler arms that carry loads of books to my lap and reach up to me as if to say, “Read these now please.”
- I love the smell of my daughter’s wispy hair that definitely has a mind of its own.
- I love baby and toddler cheeks. Did I say that already?
- I equally love and hate the monotony of motherhood. Filling the sippy cups, making lunch, changing diapers, doing laundry, picking up toys. I know it’s tiresome but they rely on me. I’m creating their memories, their experiences, their safety. That’s a big deal to me.
- I love watching my babies sleep. Not only because I get a few moments to myself or to get things done, but because they always look so peaceful!
- I love watching my son when we’re in public. I may regret this comment in a few months or years, but right now, he is such a sponge and such a performer. He is kind, a good listener, and always runs back into my arms when he needs a snuggle. It’s adorable.
I love being a mom. Although the days are long and my hair isn’t as clean as it has been pre-kids, it’s the little things that get me by each day. I urge you to take a few moments, whether it’s while your babies sleep, while you’re lying in bed, or among the chaos of your everyday life, to recognize and be thankful for the little things that you love as well.