Being a mom can be tough sometimes. We not only compare ourselves to other moms around us and on social media, but we are our own biggest critics. It’s easy to feel inadequate when your only “job” is taking care of your children, but it’s also easy to feel on top of the world with a small hug or kiss from your baby.
While I was relaxing yesterday during nap time, I found myself scrolling through the photos on my phone. I was overwhelmed with wonderful memories and simple moments with the people I love. Many of these photos included all of the beautiful moms in our life, who love our family so much and are always here for us. I realized that although I often thank these women for dinner, or help with babysitting, or other small acts of kindness, I never really thought about how deeply they have impacted me as a mom.
I truly would not be the mom I am today without learning from the moms around me, and I am sincerely thankful for their love and support. Here are the ways I have become a better mom by learning from the special moms in my life.
- I’ve realized the importance of spending quality time with my children.
So, I’ve always loved to read, and as a teacher by trade I know how important it is to read to your children and take any learning opportunity you can. But even before I became a teacher I was shown love every single day by my own mom, and the moms around me like my aunts, grandmothers, mother and sister-in-laws, and friends. I grew up in a world without cellphones and I never had to fight with technology for my mom’s attention. Although I agree with independent play and remember hours of using my imagination on my own, the moms in my life always showed me and their kids love and attention and wanted to spend time with us, which made them great role models for me today.
2. I want my kids to know that family is always there for you.
All of these strong women in the photo above have taught me how to never give up and that you should never have to fight alone. Each and every one of them have been there for me since I was born and I love them with all my heart. Moms are there for each other, moms are resilient, moms are loving and supportive. I’ve learned how to instill this importance of family onto my children from the wonderful moms in my amazing family!
3. I’ve become a better mom by learning from the moms who had babies before me, especially my sister-in-law. I know that friendship is crucial as a mom too and I’m lucky we’re such great friends.
Lucky for us, we got a whole year with our nephew before we had kids of our own, and boy did we learn a lot from being a part of his first year! I can never thank my sister-in-law enough for her friendship, advice, and willingness for me to be such a strong part of his life, which has made me a better mom today. Also, the hand-me-downs are a big plus! 😉
4. I’ve learned how to value tradition, and various parenting techniques from the older moms in my life. I’ve also learned how to adapt to the world we live in now and tailor those techniques to work for my family.
Parenting changes as time changes. We constantly hear stories from our grandmothers and other moms in our life about how raising children used to be. No seatbelts, sleeping on your tummy, using various methods to help teething, are just a few things that come to mind. I love these stories! Living in a world filled with chemicals and pesticides, a focus on organic, and the pressure of society to be the most “natural” mom you can be can sometimes drive you crazy. It’s nice to hear stories of times in the past where the moms of our families were free of technology, more care-free, and weren’t given so many options of food and products when raising a child. Many things have changed for the better too, and in the end, I am grateful that I get to learn from our grandmothers and other moms in our life in many ways.
5. I’ve definitely learned the most from my Mom and Mother-in-Law over the past two years, and I couldn’t be more thankful to have them in my life and my kids’ lives.
My mom has always been the strongest woman I know and has taught me so much just from being a mom to me. I have learned patience, resilience, kindness, strength, perseverance, wisdom, and how to have fun as a mom, from my own mom. She is always there for me and my family, and loves my babies as her own. There’s no better teacher than a mom, and I can always count on her to continue teaching me as I watch my children grow!
My Mother-in-law is such an amazing role model for my kids, and a great teacher for all of us as well. I am lucky that I was blessed with such a kind, generous woman to help me down the path of motherhood. I have learned consistency, selflessness, love, and kindness from her and I am so happy that my kids get to experience love from all of their grandparents!
I’ve also learned how to be a better cook from the moms in my life, and for that I will always be grateful!
6. One of the most unexpected things I’ve learned from the moms in my life is how to be a role model to those who aren’t moms yet too. There is a part of me that is grateful for being one of the first people out of my friends and cousins to have a baby. I’ve always felt motherly and I love taking care of people, so if I can teach my friends even just a little bit about being a mom, I feel like I’m passing on the torch from the moms who’ve come before me.
7. I’m more grateful than I ever have been and I’ve learned to enjoy the little things since becoming a mommy. I’ve always felt loved and supported, and having kids has made me recognize the women in my life who are so important to me, because they love my kids so much, including our family, friends, and godparents. It really does take a village, and I’m so glad I’ve found mine.
My babies truly are the luckiest kids in the world because they have so many people who love them, and that is the ultimate Mother’s Day gift for me.
As a fairly new mom, I’m constantly learning, growing, changing, and teaching! I’ve chosen to take my second Mother’s Day to enjoy my babies, thank the moms and women in my life who are always there for me, and enjoy lots of cuddles and great food with my family. I even got to sneak in a long shower too ;). After all, life is clearly better with babies. I hope you enjoyed your day as well!